We all have, at one time or another, blocked, screwed up, and/or made more difficult in some way communication between yourself and ….partners, parents, children, siblings, bosses, teachers, therapists, clients …basically everyone. Knowing something about yourself, what your triggers and hot buttons are can help to not only smooth communication but to help you express what you feel and think. Listed below are some communication road blocks as well as common statements that are often said.
When have you said these? What was going on before the comments and with whom were you talking with? What might be an alternative statement(s).
You should You’re wrong You should know that
It would be best for you to Why don’ t you
You’re getting defensive
You had better You have to
Don’t you realize
It’s not so bad
That’s nothing compared to
I figured you’d do that! I should’ve expected that from you!
Al l or Nothing:
You always do that! Yes you do! You’ re never
Prying: Puts other on the spot/defemsive and is intrusive