Acceptance is outcomes without attachments, guilt, shame, remorse, self pity, resentment, fear, anger, etc. These are the tools of the disease of addiction. To maintain Recovery One must maintain a state of Acceptance.
A worksheet that I have used with folks.
First Step Worksheet: Acceptance
“We admitted we are powerless over our addiction, that our lives had become unmanageable.”
The first thing is to admit powerlessness, or, in other words, to say “I can’t control my use of drugs/alcohol, or the consequences of my use of drugs/ alcohol.”
• How have drugs placed your life, or the lives of others, in jeopardy?
What family/personal problems have you had? What legal problems have you had? What work problems have you had?
• How have you lost self-respect due to your drug use?
• How have you tried to control your use of drugs?
• What types of physical abuse have happened to you, or others, as a result of your drug use?
• Are you happy with yourself about your alcohol/drug use?
It is important to honestly look at how the consequences of our drug use have affected us. This is “connecting the dots”. When I use, this is what happens. Looking back over your using history:
• What health problems have you had?
• What sexual problems have you had?
• What financial problems have you had?
Remember that “loss of control” (powerlessness) and problems (un-manageability) are symptoms of the disease of drug/alcohol dependence. In order to recover, people have admitted their limitations and accepted that the solution is to be open to support from others (NA/AA) and to stay away from the first use, one day at a time!